Saturday, August 29, 2009

An addition to the box of awesomeness

One might see this post as a logical extension of the previous one, but there were many that were typed out in between- on unrelated topics- but didn't quite make their way to the Publish tab.

For all the grief I get over being less social, I spend quite a bit of time and energy figuring out types of people I like. I place all these categories in what I call 'the box of awesomeness'. The predictable ones like those who are independent, risk-taking, free spirited are all in here, as are some of the quirky ones- like women with curly hair, those who dislike clubs but love bars, people who like beer and others. The latest to the addition is people who break up after the age of 25- 25 being the keyword.

Any way, so why? In uncomplicated words: breakups build character. They hurt. And it takes a very brave person to get through this, a very confident one to get through this without losing the awesomeness, and an absolutely fabulous one to get through this and come out of it even more awesome. (Strong adulthood influence: Barney Simpson, from How I met your mother.)

I acknowledge, that very often one of the two people breaking up (often called the dumpee) doesn't have much to do with it. But the infallible truth is that everyone who breaks up after the age of 25- the fickle dumper, or the needy dumpee- turns out awesome, since he/she spends at least a year of their mid-twenties preparing to spend their life without a partner.

2 outstanding questions?

* What about those who break up and quickly find another partner, or decide to leave this in their parents' hands, since for many people mid-twenties' relationships almost axiomatically imply getting married soon?
** Why 25?

On *, they're an exception to this principle of awesomeness. They're brave indeed, for taking such a big decision and without completely healing, deciding to move on. But not awesome, because they miss out on the tremendous insecurity followed by unshakable, almost stubborn confidence one develops when they start preparing themselves to live alone.

On**, because just the way its more difficult to lose weight at 25 vs 17, and just the way our bodies heal easily at 17 but not as well at 25, its more difficult to move on at 25. When we're older, we don't goof around. We place a lot of importance on love- and give it a lot more. The storm caused by a broken heart is much more difficult to clear when you're older.

And then when you do move on you're older, more beautiful and of course awesome. Without planning cool pickup lines, or romantic dinners, or flowers or cards or scented candles, everything turns out right!

I'm listening to Trickbaby, Fighter it is!


The White Phoenix said...

On * - Its like you will never enjoy single-malt if you haven't tasted the Indian blended whiskey. If you break-up at 25, you are mature enough to understand and question the reasons of the break-up. If you haven't suffered the heart-break and lived each moment of that loneliness, you will never be able to enjoy any relationship ever. Break-up is like a dirty shirt. Getting over period is the washing part. If you don't wash it properly, you will never have that Rin ki chamkaar again.

Nothingman said...

Thats quite a theory Doc... altho is it alright if the break ups a little premature at say..24? :)

Nice Post.

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